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However, we cannot deny that we are all being Arabized. We dress arabic, eat arabic (no polourie or patato balls anymore for iftaar, only some dates and something to drink) And on top of that, they sell you the dates at twice the normal price because it is Saudi dates. We even speak English with an Arabic accent although we have always spoken English normally. I could hardly understand the eid khutbah this year although it was done by a Guyanese who has not been to Saudi except for hajj. Are we going to deny these influences?

SPEAK THE TRUTH EVEN IF IT IS AGAINST YOU OR YOUR KIN.


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However, we cannot deny that we are all being Arabized. We dress arabic, eat arabic (no polourie or patato balls anymore for iftaar, only some dates and something to drink) And on top of that, they sell you the dates at twice the normal price because it is Saudi dates. We even speak English with an Arabic accent although we have always spoken English normally. I could hardly understand the eid khutbah this year although it was done by a Guyanese who has not been to Saudi except for hajj. Are we going to deny these influences?

SPEAK THE TRUTH EVEN IF IT IS AGAINST YOU OR YOUR KIN.


Better to be Arabized than Christianized...
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Better to be Arabized than Christianized...


better to beat our wives than not to beat them ...lol
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If they behave bad, stop beating them and beat them. lol...
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The interpretation you have produced is one that apologists for Islam come with..i.e. to show that we don't condone wife beating,


Dara, Thanks for your response, I am trying to get an understanding of your writings and reasoning but I am getting lost somewhere along the lines, am I to understand that the apologist is trying to defend 4:34 which should be undefendable?

I can understand the Saudi line of thinking, When in Rome, do as Romans do or give unto Caesar. What might have been the best values for him, does not seems so for you......hence your hoping that he never comes close to your gyaal picknees. Whils't at the same time we are still left hanging to know "which is right" your way of thinking or his.

Getting back to 4:34 and its translations, is there a slight chance that the words "and beat them" could have carried a different meaning.

As usual.....thanks for your stern response, and I am not going away until I understand your concept of 4:34, as We cannot get rid of same, but we can surely try to get a better understanding.

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Wish you luck. The man seems to have his own intrepretation and authority.
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speak for yourself...when i break fast i had dates and polourie :)


I don't mean me. See the trend at the masjids. That is why I have iftar at home. :)
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Originally posted by ksazma:
However, we cannot deny that we are all being Arabized. We dress arabic, eat arabic (no polourie or patato balls anymore for iftaar, only some dates and something to drink) And on top of that, they sell you the dates at twice the normal price because it is Saudi dates. We even speak English with an Arabic accent although we have always spoken English normally. I could hardly understand the eid khutbah this year although it was done by a Guyanese who has not been to Saudi except for hajj. Are we going to deny these influences?

SPEAK THE TRUTH EVEN IF IT IS AGAINST YOU OR YOUR KIN.


Better to be Arabized than Christianized...


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Originally posted by limer:
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Originally posted by ksazma:
However, we cannot deny that we are all being Arabized. We dress arabic, eat arabic (no polourie or patato balls anymore for iftaar, only some dates and something to drink) And on top of that, they sell you the dates at twice the normal price because it is Saudi dates. We even speak English with an Arabic accent although we have always spoken English normally. I could hardly understand the eid khutbah this year although it was done by a Guyanese who has not been to Saudi except for hajj. Are we going to deny these influences?

SPEAK THE TRUTH EVEN IF IT IS AGAINST YOU OR YOUR KIN.


Better to be Arabized than Christianized...



whats wrong with christianity?..."arabized" is not a religion..thats like comparing apples and oranges.
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Wish you luck. The man seems to have his own intrepretation and authority.


That is because you are not interested in learning from him. He is very intelligent and his explanations are very simple if you are prepared to read with your eyes and mind open.
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speak for yourself...when i break fast i had dates and polourie :)


I don't mean me. See the trend at the masjids. That is why I have iftar at home. :)


thats why i dont go to GY masjids...
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whats wrong with christianity?..."arabized" is not a religion..thats like comparing apples and oranges.


It is not our faith. The trouble is that we were never Christianized but the new preachers wiches us to believe that we were. Trouble is that they are replacing it with something that is not Islam.
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Is he confirming or denying that you are allowed to beat your wife and can have more than one wife?
He seems to be wriggling around without taking a stance. This is a yes or no answer.
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thats why i dont go to GY masjids...


I go to masjid to pray. Stay away from the speaches, lectures and other stuff. Don't care for the food anyway. :) We eat too much as it is.
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Is he confirming or denying that you are allowed to beat your wife and can have more than one wife?
He seems to be wriggling around without taking a stance. This is a yes or no answer.


There are relativity in every aspect of our lives. No black and white answers. And you know it. So give the man the same benefit that you wish to have.
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anyone who take that verse as a literal meaning will and have to take all other verses just as it is. And if this is the case we have a big problem and evil amongst us. The same with the unreliable hadiths.
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So what is the meaning?
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anyone who take that verse as a literal meaning will and have to take all other verses just as it is. And if this is the case we have a big problem and evil amongst us. The same with the unreliable hadiths.



Bai, ress yuh rass. Yuh have tuh put things in their proper perspective. I gaffo let Dara school yuh some more.
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So what is the meaning?


Dara already explaned it. Go back and read what he wrote.
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whats wrong with christianity?..."arabized" is not a religion..thats like comparing apples and oranges.


You mean apples to dates.
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Originally posted by rick:
So what is the meaning?


Dara already explaned it. Go back and read what he wrote.


This is what he wrote:
"Bhai: i posted the first detailed answer. As a human, I don't believe in beating. Under no circumstance..I view the verses on the subject as catering to gradualism..gradual abolition of the practice."

And the rest of the verses in the Quran are gradualism also? Or only those selected by Dara?
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Originally posted by Aragorn:
anyone who take that verse as a literal meaning will and have to take all other verses just as it is. And if this is the case we have a big problem and evil amongst us. The same with the unreliable hadiths.



Bai, ress yuh rass. Yuh have tuh put things in their proper perspective. I gaffo let Dara school yuh some more.


Dara cool, I like his approach. You can blame the hadiths for all dysfunctional or debatebale practices within islam.
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Originally posted by ksazma:
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Originally posted by Aragorn:
anyone who take that verse as a literal meaning will and have to take all other verses just as it is. And if this is the case we have a big problem and evil amongst us. The same with the unreliable hadiths.



Bai, ress yuh rass. Yuh have tuh put things in their proper perspective. I gaffo let Dara school yuh some more.


Dara cool, I like his approach. You can blame the hadiths for all dysfunctional or debatebale practices within islam.


If I am not incorrect, I thought wife beating was in the Quran.
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Originally posted by ksazma:
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Originally posted by rick:
So what is the meaning?


Dara already explaned it. Go back and read what he wrote.


This is what he wrote:
"Bhai: i posted the first detailed answer. As a human, I don't believe in beating. Under no circumstance..I view the verses on the subject as catering to gradualism..gradual abolition of the practice."

And the rest of the verses in the Quran are gradualism also? Or only those selected by Dara?


as time progress people were careful on how they translate this verse. The words has gotten milder over the yrs. One cannot take the verse as a literal command. It was never meant to be. Saudi and other folks used the versed to create -- In Saudi and some other countries as Political Islam ... and other individuals used it for their own selfish benefit. If someone disagrees then we have to look at other verses in the quran. Now they cannot apply this theory to this verse and not the others. And if they do they are radicals.
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If I am not incorrect, I thought wife beating was in the Quran.


its in the quran .... check dara explanation(well said). Folks would put their spin to certain quran verses by using the unreliable cherry picking strong weak hadiths.
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All these apologists.

Bai, 6th century Arabia was a country of barbarians. The verse was revealed to them.
20th century Arabia is still a country of barbarians. Nothing changed, and the verse still has the same meaning.

No need to apologise.
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The interpretation you have produced is one that apologists for Islam come with..i.e. to show that we don't condone wife beating,


Dara, Thanks for your response, I am trying to get an understanding of your writings and reasoning but I am getting lost somewhere along the lines, am I to understand that the apologist is trying to defend 4:34 which should be undefendable?

I can understand the Saudi line of thinking, When in Rome, do as Romans do or give unto Caesar. What might have been the best values for him, does not seems so for you......hence your hoping that he never comes close to your gyaal picknees. Whils't at the same time we are still left hanging to know "which is right" your way of thinking or his.

Getting back to 4:34 and its translations, is there a slight chance that the words "and beat them" could have carried a different meaning.

As usual.....thanks for your stern response, and I am not going away until I understand your concept of 4:34, as We cannot get rid of same, but we can surely try to get a better understanding.

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Sorry for my stilted langauge. The word "daraba" means beat. There is no different way to understand it in context. Many people try to find ways of explaining it away...and without proper knowledge of langauge, engage in error. For example, Wadud-Muhsin takes it to mean "reason with them." Her admirable intention is because "daraba mathalan" means that. But the ayah does not have "daraba mathalan".it has the rather transitive verb.
My explanation is following Fazlur Rahman's theory of gradualism that the beating was there, and the Quran could not get it